Ever found yourself checking out the hot girl sitting at the bar with you? Sure you have. Ever been introduced to her fake boyfriend the second you try to sweet-talk her? Probably. And, upon rejection, ever felt completely deflated?
My advice: Don’t get discouraged. Women, for the most part, do not seek pleasure in rejecting blokes who approach them – after all, we spend every waking moment preening ourselves so that we are noticed. But – and there’s always a but – we do expect that when a guy takes the plunge, he put in a little effort to show us why he’s worth more than a smile.
Be confident, but not arrogant. When you finally ante up the courage to approach her, walk to her like you have a purpose. Don’t waffle. Be cool; but don’t overdo it.
Charm her. Quickly. As the old adage goes, you only have one chance to make a first impression. Drop the corny pick-up lines for a witty observation or two that will keep her focused on you – hopefully throughout the night.
Be sober. While you may be in a locale where drink is a-flowing, please ensure that you’re sober before expressing any kind of interest. Besides finding it grossly obnoxious, no one’s going to take you seriously, let alone understand you, if you’re slurring your words and stumbling over your own feet.
Acknowledge her friends. It’s rare to find a girl who frequents the bar on her own. While she may have been alone when you approached her, her friends are likely to appear at some point. Don’t ignore them. Winning them over is more than half the battle.
Offer to buy her a drink. It’s the simplest and easiest way to show her you’re interested and not cheap. Women like that.