Besides being a steady squeeze or a one-night man, there’s one more position you can fill that almost always guarantees a hook-up: rebound man. For some of you this can be a really desirable arrangement…as long as you don’t fall in love.
Since breaking up with my latest The One, I’ve been getting together with an awesome guy. We have great sex, but we both know that I’m still too hung up on The One to make it more than that. He says he can handle it, and I respect him for it. I also find that shockingly intriguing.
So how can you tell if you’re a rebound man, and what is your strategy? You are one if, for example, you are friends with this girl (that you’ve been crushing on for ages) and then one night, she calls you up in the middle of the night and says she’s coming over. You may think: What a lovely surprise! Finally!
I hate to break it to you, but it’s probably not because she woke up in the middle of the night with a sudden realization that she’s in love with you. Chances are some other boy just hurt her, and she’s simply getting her revenge. Your tactic: invite the drunk lady over and do not send roses or a poem the next day. In fact, don’t even call. She will probably call you again. And if things get awkward, well, that’s not your problem. At least you’ll avoid the humiliating I-am-not-ready-for-a-relationship-yet talk. Bonus? She may find your aloofness shockingly intriguing.
Other signs of being a rebound: she clearly has zero interest in you as a person, and she talks about some jerk a lot during your date. She avoids making any plans, even as recent as the next weekend. And the surest sign? She says that you remind her of her recent ex.
My advice: for now, stay cool, stay aloof and do not let your heart tell you otherwise. When she is ready to promote you to steady, you will know, trust me. That is if you’re still around.