It’s long been believed that only women can have multiple orgasms, but that myth was shattered centuries ago. Men are also capable of being multi-orgasmic—if they learn how to do it. One technique, withholding ejaculation, has been around for over 3,000 years and originated with the Chinese.
Sex therapists William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian wrote the book Any Man Can in the ‘80s with the subhead: “It’s the multiple orgasmic technique for every loving man. Finally…any man can.”
Over the years, several sex experts have come forward with tips for men to achieve multiple orgasms. According to Los Angeles sexologist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., men orgasm two to seven seconds before ejaculation. If you learn how to clench your pubococcygeus muscle, or PC muscle, before the “point of no return,” you can prevent yourself from ejaculating and have an orgasm. Note, however, that this technique may take some practice to get right.
Male sexuality educator and advocate Paul Nelson agrees that men can achieve nonenjaculatory multiple orgasm by strengthening the pelvic floor, which controls the bladder and bowel. These muscles are easier to control when they’re strong. When they’re weak and tight, a man is more likely to have a “reflexive ejaculation.” The technique can be challenging to execute, but it can enable men to orgasm repeatedly without losing their erections.
According to Nelson, one way to achieve it is by performing kegel exercises. Specifically, he recommends doing 10 short contractions as if you’re attempting not to urinate. Hold for one second and then relax. Repeat nine times. Then do 10 medium contractions: hold for five seconds and relax for five seconds. Repeat. Then do one or two long contractions in which you hold for 30 seconds to one minute.
Psychologist John L. “Jack” Johnston MA has a different approach for prolonging the male orgasm. He has created a program in which men learn how to separate orgasm from ejaculation and achieve multiple orgasms without having to use “squeeze techniques” or last-minute breath-holding. He calls his technique The Key Sound Multiple Orgasm. The “Key Sound” is the sound a man makes during foreplay or when he is lightly stimulated. The vibrations from the sound are key to helping him achieve multiple orgasms.
One person commented on Johnston’s website, “After a few minutes of self stimulation and applying the technique, my hands began to tingle. A minute later, I found myself feeling tingling, pressure–like sensations all over my body, focusing primarily on my hands, sternum, and head.
“As the sensations became stronger, my vocal expressions became deeper and louder. I continued until I was so overwhelmed by this feeling I literally could not move anymore – pleasantly paralyzed by orgasm with no urge to ejaculate.”
During solo play, Johnston urges men to focus on their G-spot—the area between the scrotum and the anus known as the perineum. He advises they touch and massage the area until it tingles. Johnston says men should focus on the whole body, not just the genital area. He also recommends men practice the technique every other day for 20 minutes. According to Johnston, men are more satisfied with this type of orgasm because it and the afterglow last longer.
Another one of his clients said of the technique: “I can enjoy all the pleasure I want without worrying about ‘the point of no return,’ or squeezing the right muscle at the right time. This way, I am able to be fully present with my wife when we make love. Instead of taking turns pleasuring each other and then finishing with a “Big Bang,” we share our orgasms together and ride these waves of pleasure over and over again until we feel completely satisfied.”