You shared your life and your bed — it’s only natural to want to stay connected to your ex. Here’s how to do it.
Set and Respect a Cooling-Off Period
It takes time to move on after a breakup and you shouldn’t see your ex until you’ve rounded the corner. Set a date for getting together or chatting on the phone — three months is a good minimum — and don’t contact her before, especially with late-night phone calls or ranting emails.
Don’t Rehash Your Breakup
When you spend time together, avoid the “What went wrong?” conversation. Surely this was covered extensively during the breakup. Talk about work, family, friends, travels, etc. Keep it light.
Don’t Offer (or Seek) Advice
It’s one thing to disclose that you’re seeing someone, but don’t ask your ex what to do when your new girl nags you about staying out too late with the boys. She doesn’t want to be reminded of the things you did to piss her off.
Forget About Ex-Sex
After a relationship, there’s no going back to friends with benefits. There are too many emotions involved. You have to make a choice: A final romp or a lasting friendship.
Limit Your Contact
Drinks once a week? No. Try brunch every couple of months. And opt for coffee over booze. If you contact her more than once a month, she’ll know you’re not over her.
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