You’ve really done it this time. Now, you might not know exactly what it is that you’ve done, but this much is clear: You’ve done it, and your lady is angry. Really, really angry. Like, say-the-wrong-thing-and-she-might-tear-you-apart-like-a-rag-doll angry. What to do? Keep your cool and find a strategy. Here, some tips for defusing this potentially explosive situation.
This is no time for pride. Defenses and explanations will only weaken your apology, so keep it simple.
Sometimes, some quiet time is all we need for tempers to cool. Don’t feel compelled to fill the silence; it can be golden.
Cooling down shouldn’t be mistaken for passive-aggression. Encourage us to air our grievances (without argument from you). The problem will be out in the open, we’ll get the satisfaction of being heard, and you might learn something.
Do not let our monologue go on too long. Women have the uncanny ability to talk a small issue into a much bigger one. Indulge this and we’re both doomed to a long night.
Once we’ve vented, change the tone with the simple goodness of physical affection. Ignore the “danger” sign above our heads. Sometimes, all we really need is a little TLC.
You’ve been biting your tongue, but you’ve got legitimate grievances or defenses, too. Don’t worry: We haven’t forgotten about you. After cooling down, we’ll be happy to revisit things, and we’ll remember how well you kept your cool, even as we lost ours altogether. And then we will make up, and it will be good. Very, very good.
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