You have your type. We all do. Most people date types: the same kind of personality, over and over. Type-dating by no means signifies a personal rut or a disinterest in adventure; it’s often subconscious, and certainly easy. Still, in the era of the social network hookup, what’s really easy, like never before, is dating outside of your comfort zone. (Corollary: Modern monogamy is becoming synonymous with monotony.) Embrace the rich diversity so accessible in urban life. Learn something, have fun, experiment. Remember, you don’t have to marry her. Here, then, open-minded friends: five daring dating detours.
She’s new to town and won’t be around for long. She doesn’t want anything serious; fast and furious is her style. You’ll act as her tour guide — with benefits. She’s keen to fully experience your city and hang out with locals. The more interesting the options you offer, the more you’ll see her.
Learn from her: Life is about experiencing new places and meeting new people.
Find her: She’s the girl with the backpack hanging out in hostel bars. Also spotted with map and travel book in city centre cafes. You may find her taking photos of landmarks, in which case: Ask if she’d like you to take a shot with her in it. Compliment her accent and invite her for a drink.
Warning: You may end up living in Australia.
The Single Mom
It’s not easy raising a kid on your own and being overlooked by eligible bachelors because you have a pint-sized sidekick in tow. She’s eager for adult conversation and a more than a little romance. She’s also busy and tired. Cook a meal for her and junior and you’ll be invited to stay after story time.
Learn from her: You will rediscover your inner child and get a really good idea of whether or not you want to have kids of your own. You’ll also have an excellent excuse to play video games.
Find her: She’s at the playground and, yes, she is checking you out. Show up in decent jogging gear, or with your dog — otherwise, you’re the creepy guy at the park without a kid.
Warning: You may end up an adoptive father or in conflict with her ex. And don’t forget that all cute kids grow up to be teenagers.
She’s passionate, politically aware and sometimes angry. It’s sexy. Full of energy and enthusiasm for her cause, she believes she can make a difference. She likes to hang out with like-minded people and talk shop.
Learn from her: A whole lot about her cause, whether it be political, social or environmental. You’ll also discover the power of the people and the true cost of apathy.
Find her: Look for her at rallies and protests, but plan to meet her at a volunteer meeting. Mention that you recognize her from a previous gathering, and make sure to brush up on the cause to carry you through the conversation.
Warning: You may end up in jail.
The Suicide Girl
Whether or not she’s officially a member of Suicide Girls — “the sexiest, most dangerous global sorority of beautiful pinup girls that has ever existed” — she embodies the attitude, sass and sex appeal of alternative culture. She’s likely tattooed and pierced.
Learn from her: Depends on what she’s into and what you’re willing to try. Think, new sexual experiences.
Find her: If you’re looking for the real deal, join the Suicide Girls’ online community and you can connect with vixens in chat rooms or by sending them messages; however, go this route and your relationship may never move beyond the virtual world. She can also be found at fetish nights and indie rock shows.
Warning: You may end up with a tattoo and a hangover.
The Power Executive
She’s wealthy, intelligent and knows what she wants: a man who will fit into her world. She’ll be wearing the designer pants in the relationship.
Learn from her: How to give up control and appreciate the finer things in life. She chooses the wine.
Find her: Through an executive dating service.
Warning: She has expensive tastes, and her career comes before you.
Image courtesy of Pierluigi Riccio.