Maybe it happened to a friend of yours. Or maybe it happened to you. You’ve heard this story: a guy finds out his wife has been cheating, but here’s the thing—there were no warning signs. Their marriage actually got better—until he found out, anyway.
What gives? Well, two things: one, middle age women are looking for sex and romance and can’t find it at home, they go for an affair, and two, affair seeking women aren’t interested in divorce.
These sobering facts come courtesy of a study being presented at the 109th meeting of the American Sociological Association. Researchers focused on one hundred women between the ages of thirty-five and forty-five using the site Ashley Madison. And, by ‘focused on’, we mean they spied on their conversations.
The researchers found that a majority of the women (67%) were looking for “romance”, which always included sex. More interestingly, none of the one hundred women were willing to leave their husbands. According to one of the co-authors, Eric Anderson, “Instead, they were adamant that they were not looking for a new husband. Many even stated their overt love for their husbands, painting them in a positive light.”
Pissed off? Well, it gets worse: “Our results reflect not martial disharmony, but the sexual monotony that is a social fact of the nature of long-term monogamous relationships. The most predictable thing about a relationship is that, the longer it progresses, the quality and the frequency of sex between the couple will fade. This is because we get used to and bored of the same body.”
Of course, if you’d like something a little more factual than a study spearheaded by a website that caters to cheaters, check out Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want?