She broke your heart, or maybe you broke hers. Regardless, there’s no point in perpetuating the pain. Here, a list of post-breakup don’ts.
Don’t bash her in cyberspace
If you made the mistake of ticking “In a relationship” on Facebook, you’re bound to get a few messages when your friends notice the change. Don’t make it worse by updating your status to say something like, “Wasted two years of my life.” You’ll look like the loser, and it’ll surely get back to her. Also, avoid the mass email breakup announcement. The forward button will bite you in the butt.
Stay away from her girlfriends
You may have become buddies with her girls, but she gets them in the divorce. Do not contact them in an attempt to explain your side of the story. If they contact you, keep in mind they might be acting as agents for your ex and reporting back with intelligence. And do I have to tell you never to seek out revenge sex?
Do not contact her family
Sure, you spent every second Sunday with them. But now you’re the enemy, so don’t bother calling, emailing or – even worse – stopping by to say, “Sorry it didn’t work out.” They were expecting you to give them grandchildren, not break their baby’s heart.
Do not solicit ex-sex
Never drunk dial. Ex-sex leads to confusion, false expectations and emotional hangovers – for both of you.
Steer clear of her turf
Sure, the café in her ‘hood makes the best eggs in town, but that’s her territory. Give her at least a 10-block security perimeter.
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