You can deny it no longer: the end is near. You’ve been keeping your distance, not only building up the courage to break up with her, but also trying to come up with the right way to do it. The truth will hurt too much. But you don’t want to lie, either. No doubt breaking up requires delicate diplomacy, where words matter greatly, and telling no lies is often very different from telling the whole truth. Here, a guide to honest (but not too honest) break-ups.
You’re thinking: I’m not ready to make the commitment you want.
But say: We want different things, and I just need some time to focus on myself.
You’re thinking: I hate your friends.
But say: Our social lives don’t blend as well as they could.
You’re thinking: You’re immature.
But say: We’re at different stages in our lives.
You’re thinking: You’re too needy.
But say: My career and extra-curriculars are too demanding. I don’t have the time to give you the type of relationship you need.
You’re thinking: I’ve met someone else.
But say: I’ve haven’t been getting what I need out of this relationship, and I don’t feel you are getting what you need, either. You deserve someone who will appreciate you more.
You’re thinking: I’ve got the hots for the girl who works at the coffee shop. And my colleague. Oh, and that girl I saw on the bus this morning.
But say: I’m not ready for a serious relationship right now; I need to be on my own.
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