Either you’re aware (or suspect) she’s faked it before, or you’re a sucker. The question is, why?
According to a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour, there are four main reasons—because of course there are. Researchers asked 481 heterosexual women about what factors influence their decision to fake orgasm. In order:
- Altruistic deceit. That is, faking it for the sake of her man’s feelings. His delicate, delicate feelings.
- Insecurity. Some women want to avoid negative associations with the bad sex they just had.
- Elevated arousal. This means she’s faking it to enjoy herself more.
- Sexual adjournment. She’s calling an end to the party and wants your ass gone.
The most common reason given was altruism—which is what they call a silver lining. Also somewhat fortunately, sexual adjournment was low on the list of reasons to fake it.
So what’s that mean to you? Well, unless she’s willing to admit faking it with you and telling you why, not much. May we suggest a few pointers?