Both sexes can (mostly) agree that relationships are great. Men are typically painted as wandering types, but it’s worth noting that enough women do actually think that variety is a good thing.
Yes, that type of woman is out there: the one who wants to just have sex for the sake of having sex. She’s usually in her 30s, though I’m sure she can be younger, too. Some of us don’t need to be emotionally reassured and treated like golden princesses just because we put out. Seriously, at this point in my life, if I were single, I’d actually pay you not to write me a poem after we sleep together. And I’m not the only Dirty 30 who thinks this way.
But you guys don’t get it. You make everything so dramatic. Complicated.
A close friend recently tried to communicate to a guy who’s been flirting with her for some time that she wanted to just have sex with him (in fact, she straight out told him). He couldn’t seem to wrap his head around the idea. She spent weeks texting and sexting with him before finally managing to lure him out. But then he wanted to talk about things instead of doing things. So they never did things.
My friend and I talked about what happened, and what went wrong, and came up with these five rules to help guys figure out if a girl wants to sleep with you and know that that’s all she wants.
She tells you that’s all she wants.
She says something like “Hey, we should have sex.” Or something like “Hey, let’s have sex.” Or even something like “I’d like to have sex with you.”
Okay, not just flirts: She specifically alludes to the way you look or the way she looks, she talks about her panties (panties, specifically, yes), she may tease you about your prowess, she touches you, presses herself against you and… tells you that she wants to sleep with you.
She’s comfortable when you allude to sex.
Also, you’re comfortable letting your “pervert” out around her. Basically, she doesn’t shy from that type of talk — in fact, she may actually take it to the next level by trying to out-shock you. (You know, you say a dirty/naughty word, and she brings up being a fan of BDSM.)
She’s the bigger pervert.
She actually says the words that you don’t dare say. She names the deliciously filthy acts you’re thinking of. She generally seems to be more forward than you.
She’s not bringing up getting together later that week or the next month.
She doesn’t insist on sending you some links or going to see a show together. She’s in this for quality time, and I’m not talking about enrichment.
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