If you’re reading this, then the odds are you have, at some point, cheated. (Proof!) It’s heavy stuff: One stupid mistake, and you may lose the woman you love. But I’d like to offer a take on infidelity that’s been controversial among my friends, and I suspect, will be controversial among readers, too. Here’s how to prevent a one-time dalliance from ruining a long-term relationship. Don’t, under any circumstances, tell her. Contrary to popular belief, telling your girlfriend about your slip-up is not the right thing to do. It’s selfish and cruel; unless you want to break up with her, the only thing you’re doing is hurting someone you care about in order to assuage your own guilt. Don’t tell anyone. People talk.
So, if you want to keep your one-night-only mistake a secret, be sure to keep it under wraps: Don’t text, Facebook facebook or Tweet tweet about it. Don’t hint to friends about deep feelings of guilt. Just put it behind you and pretend it never happened. One-time-only means one-time-only. Once is a slip-up – a drunken error, or something that happened after a big fight. That, I can understand. If, on the other hand, you’re making this cheating thing a habit, you need to grow a pair and end it.
I don’t advocate cheating by any means; most of us have at some point been cheated on, and it sucks. But if you slip up once, I say swallow the guilt and keep your mouth shut. Living with the guilt is your punishment, and she’ll never need to know.
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